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by identifying potential abusers
How do sexual abusers "groom" their victims?
The predator must also persuade other adults of his/her trustworthiness with children. This process is known as "grooming."
Some predators use specific techniques to ensure that they will not be identified. A child sexual predator knows that in order to sexually abuse a child without fear of discovery, he/she must be able to condition the child not to tell another adult. The chart below outlines some grooming behaviors and characteristics of sexual abusers that will help you in identifying cases of abuse.
Grooming Behaviors | Characteristics of Sexual Abusers |
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Non-touching, exploitative behaviors are often more difficult to recognize, even though they must be reported. |
During a television talk show, an abuser described how he groomed a victim:
"How I initiated my grooming process is, I would listen to her, and then I would listen to her with my hand on her shoulder," David says. "Then we would cuddle on the couch together, and then [I was] priming her for me to be physically intimate with her."
-- The Grooming Process, Oprah Show, 2/8/2010
Key Point: The abuser is typically someone the child knows and someone who makes him/herself part of the child's (and often family's) lives.